Who should we fight for?

I'm the type of person who doesn't give up easily on the people I care about. I fight to keep them in my life as hard as I can so when they decide to not be in it ever again, I'll have tried my hardest to keep them from going. 

Fighting could be a lot of things. It could be texting them first, calling them, braving the blueticks and prodding them to keep the conversation going, you know? Just making the effort and going the extra mile. 

But the other day I was having a conversation with my roommate and she pointed out how I usually fight to keep the people I care about in my life and I thought to myself, do they equally fight for me too? Do they usually fight to keep me in their life as well? 

So my skepticism and I sat down alone and we contemplated that question. It was a bad idea to bring my skepticism along but it actually opened my eyes at points I usually overlooked in the past and in the present. 

Doubt krept in. Insecurity followed. Then we all sat in a circle on the floor and talked about my friends, my family, people I care about in general and we evaluated if they do and if they would fight for me when the moment of truth came. 

Being the antisocial introvert that I am, I usually have a small group of people I let into my life. A handful of close friends and another handful of family members. My circle is usually tight so, when it comes to the point where, let's say, I had a small falling out with a friend, its easy to fight for them to have them back in my life as opposed to just replacing them. 

I believe that the connections we make with people are special because there are others with whom we might not connect or click at all. That's why I fight to keep people in my life, that and the fact that I am quite forgiving and perhaps very understanding, unless I've believed my own hype. 

So sitting on that floor with my companions doubt, skepticism and insecurity, I thought really hard about this issue. I was particularly curious to know if they would fight for me if I was on the receiving end of the fighting pole; being the one on the wrong, being the most dependent person in the relationship, etc. Would they still fight for me? 

I couldn't get the right answers and I wanted to scream out loud. But a tinie tiny voice of reason was knocking outside the door. The others refused to let it in but I opened the door. The voice of reason joined our circle on the floor and began to talk and silence the others. 

It said that as long as I want them in my life and they too are making an effort to come back into my life, then nothing else matters. As long as they want to be back in your life. You fight for them. 

Slowly doubt, skepticism and insecurity vanished and I was left with the voice of reason and my heart to guide me. 

Till Friday guys for #lifestyle. 

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